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Slowing down saved me when pushing through couldn’t. In 2017, grief hit hard—lost my dad, my son, locked up on a false charge, all while juggling court and leading startup recruitment. The world said ‘power through.’ I nearly broke trying.

Grief doesn’t play by those rules. It demands space, not speed. So I stopped fighting it. I learned to manage my energy instead. Here’s what worked:

✨ 15-Minute Rule: 15 minutes to feel it all. No rush. Just real.

✨ Micro-Goals: Tiny steps over big leaps. Small wins kept me going.

✨ Pausing: Rest isn’t failure—it’s strength.

The toughest thing I did was stop. If you’re hurting, give yourself that permission. Slowing down isn’t losing. It’s how you move forward.

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Discipline is self love.

Fireblood x 2 dry scoops ✅
Meditation ✅
Breath work ✅
Reading ✅
Cycling ✅
60 x pull ups ✅

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The moment pressure hits, you have two choices:

1️⃣ React with panic and make things worse.

2️⃣ Stay calm, stay focused, and take control.

I learned this during Navy SEAL Hell Week, ultra-marathons, and Kilimanjaro.

At hour 40 of Hell Week, I watched people quit—not because their bodies gave out, but because their minds did.

Why Your Brain Defaults to Panic

Your amygdala (fear center) sees pressure as danger, triggering fight-or-flight mode. This is great for survival, but terrible for business, leadership, and endurance.

The best performers—athletes, CEOs, special forces—train their nervous system to stay calm when it matters most.

3 Steps to Train Mental Calmness Under Pressure

1️⃣ Control Your Breathing – Slower breathing signals safety to your brain, keeping your thinking clear. Try 4-4-4-4 breathing (inhale, hold, exhale, hold for 4 seconds each).

2️⃣ Reframe the Stress – Instead of “I can’t handle this,” say: “This is just another challenge to overcome.” Your brain follows the story you tell it.

3️⃣ Shrink the Moment – Overwhelm comes from thinking too far ahead. Focus on one breath, one step, one decision.

The Real Test? Applying This in Everyday Life

You don’t need Hell Week to test your mental toughness.

Use this when facing high-stakes decisions, tough conversations, or moments of self-doubt.

Where in your life do you need to train calm under pressure?

Drop it in the comments. ⬇️

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In 2017, my life shattered.

I lost my father and my son.

Then, I faced a false accusation.

Grief pulled me down. Anxiety and depression took hold. I wanted to escape. But pain is unavoidable. You cannot run from it. You must confront it.

I chose to suffer on my terms.

Pain is a part of life. But you can train to handle it.

Most people avoid suffering. I learned to embrace it. I started running. Not just any runs. I tackled ultra-marathons.

250km in the deserts of Tanzania and Jordan.

175km across the UK.

Three London Marathons.

A grueling 50-hour Navy SEAL Hell Week.

The David Goggins 4x4x48 Challenge with a 10kg vest.

I didn’t run for fun. I ran to prove I could endure. Each challenge pushed me. Each moment of pain taught my mind to say, Not yet. Keep going.

Your brain is wired to keep you safe. It fears discomfort. It wants to conserve energy. Most people quit when things get tough. But your mind gives up long before your body needs to.

Neuroscience shows that facing controlled adversity rewires your brain. It helps you manage stress. Your decision-making and focus improve. You learn to see obstacles as challenges, not threats.

You don’t need to run ultra-marathons to build resilience. Here’s how you can train your mind for toughness in everyday life:

Do Something Uncomfortable Daily – Take cold showers. Wake up early. Push through that last rep at the gym. Small discomforts prepare your brain for bigger challenges.

Break It Down – In Hell Week, I focused on the next 5 minutes. When life feels overwhelming, concentrate on the next small step. Don’t think about the whole journey.

Master Your Inner Voice – Your self-talk shapes your actions. I remind myself: I don’t stop when I’m tired. I stop when I’m done. Find a phrase that motivates you when times get tough.

Choose your hard. Embrace the challenge. Build your resilience. You can endure more than you think.

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Grief can feel like a shadow.

It creeps in, heavy and silent.

You might not even see it coming.

Late 2023, I found myself lost.

After running ultras in Tanzania and Jordan, I thought I’d conquered my pain.

I faced the Peak District’s 175km and survived Navy SEAL Hell Week.

Two London Marathons were behind me.

Yet, I sat in a chair, feeling hollow.

My son and dad were gone.

Medals piled high, but they meant nothing.

A dull thud echoed in my chest.

“Why am I still so empty?” I asked myself.

I’m no hero.

I’m just a guy, feeling half here.

Then it hit me: this emptiness isn’t forever.

I ran.

I stumbled.

I let the ache wash over me until I saw light.

Grief is sneaky.

It steals your joy.

You drift through days, eyes dim, that ache bubbling up.

I’ve lived it.

Mornings felt gray.

Breaths were shallow.

A piece of me was missing, and I couldn’t reach it.

They say your mind rewires itself.

UCLA calls it neural grief.

But it’s simple: you feel empty, and it pulls you down.

I didn’t fix it neatly.

I ran, fell, and held my grief until I could hope again.

You might feel the same.

Look in the mirror.

You’re slipping away.

You must turn around.

I carved my healing from that darkness.

Since 2022, I’ve coached others to find their way too.

My book, Unleashing Your Mind’s Potential, lays bare my journey.

It’s real.

It’s raw.

Want my 1:1 support to lift you out?

Reply “YES.”

I take a few, and it’s messy work that makes you feel, not fade.

What’s grief silencing in you?

#LossToLegend—I’ve been there.

You’re not alone.

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Early in 2022, I felt like an impostor.

I’d sit with coaching clients, scribbling notes just so they wouldn’t see my hands shake.

My voice cracked. My stomach sank.

Inside, I was screaming, *“You don’t belong here.”*

Shame had me by my neck.

I was fragile, shrinking under its weight.

But here’s what no one tells you: shame doesn’t leave on its own.

You have two choices: let shame keep you small—or fight back.

I chose fight.

- I ran through Tanzania’s heat and Jordan’s deserts—250km each.
- Survived Navy Seal Hell Week.
- Took on two Goggins challenges wearing an extra ten kilos.
- Crossed two London Marathon finish lines.

Every step, every stumble, I shed that weight.

Not all at once, but piece by piece.

And then I realised something:

Shame isn’t just an emotion.
It’s an anchor.

It keeps you stuck, replayed on loop like bad music.

But you don’t have time for that.

I didn’t charm shame away.
I didn’t wait for permission.
I ran, I fell, I stood back up.

Now?

I coach others through their own fight.

What’s shame stealing from you today?

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2021 was my year on pause.

After running an ultra-marathon, I was done. Not physically—mentally.

I sat staring at cracked walls, toast untouched, hours slipping away.

I told myself I was “restoring.” But deep down, I knew:
I wasn’t resting. I was rust-ing.

That realisation hit hard.

Stagnation wasn’t just slowing me down—it was pulling me under.

I was disappearing.

Fast forward:
→ Two London Marathons
→ Navy Seals 50hr Hell Week
→ Two 4x4x48 Goggins Challenges (with weight vests!)
→ And ultra-marathons across Tanzania and Jordan

But back then?

I was stuck.

Here’s what I learned:

• Stagnation isn’t stillness—it’s decay.
You think you’re pausing, but you’re fading.

• Change doesn’t feel good at first.
Starting was messy, uncomfortable, and everything but inspiring.
But movement—even clumsy movement—creates life.

• Momentum is built, not found.
I didn’t wait for motivation.
I clawed at momentum until I felt alive again.

Now? I help others do this too.
Coaching. Writing. Sharing my messy climb out.

If you’re stuck, know this:
Your chair isn’t saving you.
It’s sinking you.

What’s stagnation making you?

If you’re ready for raw, gritty work that shakes you awake, let’s connect.

Reply “YES,” and let’s carve out your momentum.

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Anger can tear you apart. It can leave you feeling lost.

But it can also be your path to healing.

I remember late 2020. I had just finished my first ultra marathon in the Peak District. I was a wreck. I paced my home, fists clenched, voice cracking. I felt like a ghost. My son and dad were gone. My body was broken. I shouted, “Why am I even here?”

That night, I was not a warrior. I was a mess. I shoved furniture and sobbed until my throat burned. I felt small and stupid. Then it hit me. This rage was not my shield. It was my shovel, digging me deeper into despair.

I know many of you feel this way. You’re in that pit. Anger has you ragged. You pretend it’s okay. You snap at your friend. You kick the bin. You carry a weight you refuse to admit. I know this pain. My hands shook. My eyes stung. I was drowning in anger.

Experts say it’s your brain on edge. UCLA calls it a spiral. But it’s simple: you’re bleeding inside. This anger is tearing you down. I didn’t fix it overnight. I staggered. I ran. I let it spill until I could feel again.

You might still be there. Look in the mirror. You’re coming undone. You have to stop it.

From that wreckage, I built balance. Since 2022, I’ve coached others to climb out too. My book, Unleashing Your Mind’s Potential, is my raw truth. Link in bio.

Want my one-on-one coaching? Reply “YES.” I take a few clients. It’s real work. It’s messy.

What is anger leaving you with?

#LossToLegend. I’m here. I’ve been that broken.

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