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You’re still hitting targets.
Still answering emails.
Still leading.

But inside?
Flatline.

You feel disconnected from your work.
Disengaged from people.

Detached from yourself.

You’re not falling apart—you’re just not there.

I know that version.

It hit me hardest after the big moments.

After the loss.

After the legal battle.

After the chaos.

Because once the noise died down… the numbness moved in.

Here’s what I learned:

– Numbness is a nervous system signal.
It’s not laziness. It’s self-protection. Your body is trying to keep you safe.

– Presence can’t be forced, but it can be invited. Through breath. Through movement. Through truth.

– You don’t need motivation—you need reconnection. To your body. Your values. Your why.

If you feel like you’re drifting through your days—

Numb. Silent. Still “functional”…

You’re not alone.
And you’re not broken.
You’re just disconnected.

And disconnection is a symptom—not your identity.

DM me “NUMB” and I’ll send you the 3-part reconnection routine I use with clients who feel emotionally shut down but still want to lead, live, and serve.
Fast. Grounded. Real.

It’ll help you feel something again—starting with you.

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Now you’re here.
Not who you used to be.
Not yet who you’re becoming.

And the question haunts you:

“What now?”
“What’s the point of all this?”
“How do I rebuild a life or career that actually means something?”

I’ve asked all of those.

After the loss of father and son, and after fighting to clear my name, I stood in that fog.

I had no energy for “goals.”

No desire to grind.

Just a quiet ache to find purpose again.

Not in the Instagram-meme way.
In the real way.

Here’s what I discovered in that season:

– Purpose isn’t found. It’s forged.
Usually in the fire. Often in the dark.
Always through presence.

– It starts small.
One decision. One act of service. One honest “yes” to what lights you up again.

– The meaning comes after the action.
Not before.
You don’t wait for clarity. You create it by moving.

If you’re standing in the “after”…
Not broken, but cracked open…

You’re not lost.
You’re just rebuilding.
And that’s sacred work.

DM me “PURPOSE” and I’ll send you the journaling prompts I used to reconnect with meaning, direction, and service—when everything felt pointless.

This isn`t fluff. It’s the rebuild manual I wish I had.

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Here’s a hard truth:

Most founders, recruiters, and leaders are making decisions from wounds, not wisdom.

You think you’re being logical.

Objective. Strategic.

But really, you’re just triggered.

• You avoid hiring people who remind you of a former boss.

• You micromanage because you were never supported.

• You stay in toxic client relationships because you’re scared to be abandoned again.

This isn’t weakness.

It’s human.

And if you don’t name it, you’ll pass it on.

• I’ve done it too.

• I’ve pushed candidates harder than I needed to.

• I’ve clung to bad deals out of fear.

• I’ve led from pain while pretending it was power.

I thought I was protecting the business.

But really—I was protecting my own unprocessed grief.

Here’s what changed everything:

– You can’t heal what you won’t own.

If it’s unconscious, it’s in control.

– Your business doesn’t need a perfect leader. It needs a present one.

Someone who can pause, feel, and respond—not just react.

– Unprocessed pain has a cost.

In culture. In hiring. In retention. In revenue. In you.

You don’t have to be a therapist.

But you do have to be honest.

Because your nervous system is part of your leadership strategy.

And if you don’t clear the static—

You’ll keep repeating the same old pattern in a new suit.

DM me “CLEAR” and I’ll send you the 4-question audit I use to help leaders identify when grief or trauma is influencing their decisions.

This tool saved me from sabotaging good hires—and helped me lead from power, not pain.

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High-achievers don’t need outside critics—we’ve already got one living in our heads.

You know the voice.

👉 “You should’ve done better.”

👉 “You’re falling behind.”

👉 “You’re not who you used to be.”

👉 “They’re going to find out.”

That voice doesn’t scream on your worst day—it whispers on your best.

Right after you land a client.

Right after you get praise.

Right after the win.

It says, “Sure, but how long can you keep this up?”

I’ve battled that voice in boardrooms, trail runs, and 3 am grief spirals.

Even when I was helping founders scale, I was mentally ripping myself apart.

That voice nearly cost me my peace, my power, and my purpose.

Here’s what finally changed everything:

– The voice isn’t you.

It’s an echo of fear, trauma, and perfectionism.

You don’t have to believe everything it says.

– You can’t out-achieve a critic you’ve never confronted.

I tried. Didn’t work. The wins just made it louder.

– You don’t need to kill it. You need to lead it.

Talk to that voice like it’s scared, not smart.

Lead with compassion, not compliance.

Here’s the truth:

The critic gets loud when you’re getting close to something powerful.

Something real.

Something free.

So if your inner voice is screaming…

It might mean you`re finally doing something worth hearing about.

DM me “VOICE” and I’ll send you the 3-step process I use to shut down self-sabotage and rewire inner dialogue in under 5 minutes.

I use it. Clients use it.

It works—even when nothing else does.

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Let’s be honest—most high-performers are secretly scared of rest.

Not because we don’t need it…

But because we’re afraid of what slowing down might mean.

• Will I fall behind?

• Will I lose my drive?

• Will people stop taking me seriously?

I used to believe that if I wasn’t moving, I wasn’t winning.

I wore “busy” like a badge.

Even when I was grieving.

Even when I was shattered.

Until one day my body—

My nervous system—

My soul

Told me to sit the hell down.

Here’s what I learned:

– Slowing down isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom.

There’s nothing impressive about burning out in silence.

– Stillness sharpens the edge.

I didn’t lose my intensity when I slowed down.

I made it intentional.

– Your nervous system is the real CEO.

And if it’s fried, your decisions will be too.

This isn’t about quitting.

It’s about recalibrating.

So you can come back stronger, sharper, and more stable than before.

High performance isn’t speed.

It’s sustainability.

And the people who learn that early?

They win long-term.

DM me “PAUSE” and I’ll send you the nervous system reset I use with high-achievers who want to slow down without losing their edge.

3 steps. 5 minutes.

No fluff. Just fuel.

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You can’t fake connection.

Not for long.

Not without a cost.

And yet… recruiters, founders, and leaders do it every day.

We smile on Zoom.

We ask how people are doing.

We perform empathy.

All while feeling completely numb inside.

I know that place well.

After losing my son and father, I didn’t just lose people.

I lost parts of myself.

I became robotic. Emotionally flat.

Still hitting KPIs… but totally disconnected.

And the worst part?

I could feel my clients and candidates pulling away—

Not because I didn’t care…

But because I couldn’t feel.

Here’s what I learned:

– Connection starts with self-awareness.

You can’t meet others if you’ve abandoned yourself.

– Numbness is a protection mechanism, not a personality trait.

I wasn’t cold—I was carrying too much to process.

– You don’t need to be “fully healed” to connect.

You just need to be present. Honest. Willing to feel something again.

If you’re showing up but feeling shut down—

You’re not broken.

You’re human.

And there’s a way back.

DM me “CONNECT” and I’ll send you the 3-question reset I use with clients to shift from numb → present in under 5 minutes.

It’s simple. It’s honest. And it works—even in the middle of a workday.

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It’s a quiet kind of grief—losing the version of yourself who always had it together.

For years, I was the one who delivered.
Targets? Smashed.

Founders under pressure? I showed up.

Chaos? I stayed calm.

My identity was built on being unshakeable.

Then life happened.

• Loss.
• Grief.
• Trauma.

And suddenly, I wasn’t that guy anymore.

I couldn’t outwork the pain.

I couldn’t grind my way back to who I used to be.

And that left me with a haunting question:

Who am I if I’m no longer the one everyone counts on?

Here’s what I had to unlearn:

– Your worth isn’t tied to your output.

The scoreboard doesn’t measure your soul. And burnout isn’t a badge of honor.

– You’re allowed to outgrow old identities.

Even the successful ones. Especially the ones that came from survival, not truth.

– There’s power in redefining what “performance” looks like.

Some days, performing means getting out of bed. Showing up with honesty.

Choosing compassion over pressure.

I’m not here to tell you to “go easy on yourself.”

I’m here to tell you that you’re allowed to evolve.

High-performer or not—there’s still fire in you.

There’s still leadership.
There’s still impact.

You’re not broken.

You’re just becoming someone new.

DM me “REDEFINE” and I’ll send you the journaling process I used to rebuild my identity from the ground up.

It’s raw. Real. And built for high-achievers navigating loss, burnout, or reinvention.

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You can know your job. You can know your craft.

But when you stop believing in yourself—everything feels harder.

No one prepares you for that quiet moment.

You’re on a Zoom call, leading a team, giving direction…
But in the back of your mind, a voice whispers:

“You’re not cut out for this anymore.”
“You’ve lost your edge.”
“You’re just surviving.”

I’ve been there.

After losing my son and father, and being falsely accused of a crime, I didn’t just lose people—I lost parts of myself.

My edge. My certainty. My inner compass.

And yet… I was still expected to lead.

Still expected to hire.

Still expected to show up and perform like nothing had changed.

But everything had changed.

Here’s what I learned during that season:

– Belief isn’t loud. It’s built quietly.

One rep at a time. One truth at a time. One “I did it anyway” at a time.

– Leadership isn’t about being invincible.

It’s about being real, grounded, and honest enough to say, “I’m still here.”

– Your power doesn’t come from perfection—it comes from presence.

When I stopped performing and started connecting, everything changed. Clients. Candidates. My team. My self-worth.

If you’re leading with a cracked heart or a shaky voice… I see you.

You’re not broken.

You’re rebuilding.

And I want to help.

DM me “BELIEF” and I’ll send you the daily 3-minute belief ritual that helped me rebuild confidence from rock bottom.

It’s simple, practical, and powerful—especially if you feel like you’ve lost your spark.

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Not your average action figure.

Tattoos earned. Vest weighted. Mind forged in grief, pressure, and purpose.

Meet the “Resilience Coach” edition:
– Tactical vest: check
– Fireblood fuel: check
– Battle-tested mindset: built in
– Accessories? Purpose-driven.

This isn’t a toy—it’s a symbol.

Because resilience isn’t something you’re born with.

It’s built. Repped. Earned.

And I’m here to help you build it, too.

Let’s turn pressure into power.

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You can be the strongest person in the room—and still be silently falling apart.

I know, because I was that guy.

On the outside, I was building teams for high-growth startups.

Leading meetings. Placing engineers. Smiling on LinkedIn.

On the inside, I was grieving the loss of my son and father, battling PTSD, and under criminal investigation.

Pressure doesn’t send a calendar invite.

It hits you on the same day your targets are due.

And no one teaches you how to focus when the weight in your chest feels unbearable.

Here’s what I learned the hard way:

– Focus isn’t about productivity. It’s about safety.

If your nervous system is in fight-or-flight, no to-do list will save you.

You have to ground yourself first—then execute.

– When everything feels out of control, own the next 15 minutes.

Not the next quarter. Not the next strategy doc.

Just the next breath, the next call, the next block of focused presence.

– Discipline isn’t about pushing harder—it’s about anchoring deeper.

I stopped asking “What do I need to do?”

I started asking, “Who do I need to be right now?”

If you’re carrying something heavy and still showing up—you’re not weak, you’re a warrior.

And warriors need tools, not just motivation.

So I want to give you one.

DM me “FOCUS” and I’ll send you the tool I used to lock in when everything around me was on fire.

It’s 3 questions, 5 minutes, and it will help you shift from spiraling to steady—fast.

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